At the moment I am reading Sense and Sensibility by Jane Austen, and I finished watching one of the movies adapted from that book.
The title says much, it is about two sisters, Elinor and Marianne, who are both looking for husbands, and both of them have their fare shares of heartbreak and love. Elinor (referring to the title) is Sense, and Marianne is Sensibility. Elinor uses her head, is full of prudence and hardly moves in what she feels; she talks from her head and not her heart. Marianne is quite different, she is an impulsive romantic, she believes that she must never hide her true feelings, whether they or happy or sad, and she judges men by their ability to passionately read aloud.
I think Jane Austen was trying to portray those procuring a husband by being romantic, and those who use their head and do not show their inmost feelings. But what I have been thinking upon is this- which is what I believe Austen was trying to get us to think about- that you need a little of both characters. You need to be romantic and reserved. Not giving your heart away at the drop of a hat, not falling for the handsomest, the most passionate young man, but judging him by how he holds himself. You need to show your love, but not be ‘head over heels’ and not so reserved that no one knows your true feelings, but in between.
(Warning: spoilers ahead!) In the end, Marianne learns to control her passionate nature when she learns from her mistake of giving her heart away to a man who never intended to marry her and Elinor turns from her reservedness to show affection, they both learn from their mistakes and choose to be a little of the other- and you know what? They both find true love.
Think of The Princess and the Frog. Tiana is quiet and wants nothing to do with romantics and love, she wants to open her own restaurant, and complete her and her deceased fathers dream, but when she is turned into a frog with a Prince, along the adventure she learns to become a little more romantic, and she gets married.
Think of Ariel in The Little Mermaid. It is love at first sight when she sees the Prince for the first time, but her father disagrees with the match and banishes her from ever seeing him again. At the end as he is about to marry whom he thinks is the girl who rescued him from drowning, instead of being a wild romantic (like in Romeo and Juliet) she uses her head, and saves the day- and you know what? She ends up having a happily ever after.
Do you want a happily ever after? Think about who you are, Sense (reserved) or Sensibility (romantic) ? True love takes work and thought, it takes reservedness, but it also takes passionate love, and it takes romantics. Use your head and not just your heart when you think you have found the one.